Love over 40?

Here I am again... sitting thinking about my love life. Being single is cool for the most part. I am successful, spiritual and strong. I own a wonderful business, I get to fly all over the world, I have 2 great children but there is still a void. As Billy Dee said in Mahogany " Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with." You know that is true and it hits home HARD. I was in a relationship with my children's dad for many, many years, to be honest probably to long. I think I stayed long after God was finished with that, and thats real talk. So now I wonder where do I go? I have been dating Maxwell and he is so wonderful, but he lives and owns a business in another country. I have been seeing Ray who lives in the states but has a few issues, I'm feeling that this is not something long term, and there are other gentlemen that I may have dinner or conversations. The thing is that being over 40 I have no time to waste on childish, immature, needy, men. I want the love of a lifetime, someone who is as into me as I am him. Someone who loves me and only me( I mean no other women on the side ya'll)  Maybe I have to move out of the country...... Please tell me what you guys think, advise, help....


Chow for Now,
Frannie

Thoughts on Men and Love By Michelle Mc Kinney Hammond

 I had the pleasure of meeting this WONDERFUL WOMAN a couple of years ago at a conference that I attended with my niece. My relationship was over, my business was booming but I felted so empty. After listening to her message I knew I had to met here. My company had back stage passes and this meeting changed my life and outlook on relationships.

Thoughts on Love & Men:

What does it profit a woman to gain a man and lose her soul! Ladies get a grip, a man should add to who you are, not make you over
If a man leaves your life he should leave you a better woman than he found you. That way it’s his loss & not yours. Always maintain.

A man should never be able to rearrange your identity, posture or attitude. Know your worth and don't discount

yourself for anyone.

When a man tells u who he is believe him & make your choices accordingly. Don't blame him 4 being consistent. Blame yourself 4 not listening

If a man decides he doesn't want u it has less to do with u & more to do with who he is or isn't. Thank him 4 not blocking yr view.

There is never an excuse for jumping out of character and acting ugly unless that is who you really are. Maintain dignity.

When the audience stops applauding & enabling bad behavior actors will have to find a new way to make a scene.

If marriage & coupling up are the goal you will always choose the wrong partner. The person should inspire the purpose in your life

A cloth in the store doesn't change its pattern because its been mishandled and put back. Be who you are no matter what! Say Next!

Stop abdicating responsibility for yourself & blaming men for bad behavior. It gives them way more power than they really have.

We need to love the brothers but keep the power to be who we are. After all that is what attracted him in the 1st place.

Just remember a man will only do what he is allowed to do. Don't blame or complain, handle your business.

When a woman knows her worth & power quietly living it, the man in her life will rise to the occasion & honor her. You set the stage.

Men get a bad rap. They are not bad, just confused. Lets stop sending mixed signals & be clear about what we want/need from them.

Don't tell a man you can deal with his cheating and then get mad when he does it. You gave him permission! Think before you agree!

Desperation for love should never make you compromise your standards. Your needs will come back 2 haunt you. Keep it real and be honest about what you want for both your sakes.
Above all things, no matter how the relationship goes... Be A Lady!

Back from vacation

I am so happy to be home( and now I need another vacation)! I have been traveling all over the Caribbean, we went to Jamaica, St Lucia and Barbados. We had a wonderful time just chilling and relaxing. Because of what I do I am always scouting for my clients, FFW. When we went to St. Lucia not only was it beautiful but there were some of the most beautiful plus size women in the world, as well as the men that love them. We stayed at the Jade Mountain resort, and as amazed as I was with the beauty of the resort, I was more amazed by the plus size women who carried themselves with respect , honor and pure fabulousness! One of the gentlemen told me" Women like you are considered a Jewel".. Yes we are, love yourself and be proud of who you are.


Chow for Now,


Fran

The New Guy

As you very well may know by now I am on a quest for my true love.(Romantic I am) So I have been on some dating sights, I know that my partner is not here in KC because the men here are way to narrow minded. With that said I decided to look further and there was John... I nice, tall, handsome well dressed man from Arkansas.

He winked me, I winked back, we email for awhile and the the phone calls started, this guy is a true gentleman. Now as a rule of thumb I don't do alot of phone calls with this online dating thing because from experience that is all some men want to do, but how to handle this one since he is in another state??

John is different, he is a spiritual man(which is a must for me) he is a hard working man( which is another must) and he is a family man! Bingo!!!! We have a long wonderful talks on the phone, exchanged a few more pictures and plan to met this weekend.

I will let you know how it goes.. Wish me luck:)

Chow for now!

Rejection or Blessings?

Sometimes in relationships we tend to blame ourselves, we think" What did I do wrong, why doesn't he want me?" We pray to God and we ask for that man because we feel he is the one and that if I just had him I would be complete, we even (I even)bring Gods word into it,"You said Lord that you would give me the desire of my heart,I know that you word is true so I am standing on them". Of course God's word is true so he gives you a glimpse of what life would be like with this man,he brings him back into your life and not much has changed with him, but you have changed. The person that you were the last time he walked out your life you are no longer.


If someone walks out your life let them go,God just may be preparing the way for your real blessing, the catch is that you have to have enough faith, enough self worth the realize that you deserve only the best. So what you may see as rejection just may be God's blessing.

Chow for Now

Mean Sleep

I have been in the house all day doing research, reading, thinking... I often wonder what it was in me that made me stay for 14 years of off and on commitment? Why would I give myself to someone who was not available, physically, emotionally, period? Today I think I know why because we hold on for the change the change that we think we can create, the change that we think we can create in another person and we clearly cannot, the need to have it our way. Man when you wake up from that mean sleep and finally realize that there is nothing that you can do to change another you can only change you, when you began to work on you, thing began to work for you.


It hurts coming back to life!